Missed the trust? Or just mistrust?

Trust /trʌst/ – noun – firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something.

Mistrust /mɪsˈtrʌst/ – noun – lack of trust; suspicion.

You make a wish… and you hope! Sometimes, you have already lost any hope before even ending the wishing sentence. And that is all you have, hope. Until, of course, hope is replaced by rejection, failure, an ending, a conclusion to a specific situation that is exactly the opposite of the wishful thought, exactly what we wished would never happen. This replacement is so typical and so universal, that I believe we actually expect it, and our minds would get frustrated if it doesn’t happen.

Across the years, we became familiar and used to not having our wishes fulfilled, to hope and lose, to hope and suffer, to hope for a peaceful existence, and yet have a tormented one. We lost trust, or we never really knew it, I can’t tell! But I find trust as the rarest thing to find. It makes sense that giving hope to someone and then failing him, causes a low self esteem in that person. It makes them feel unworthy, guilty and ashamed. The more you promise something, and you break your promise, the more you fuel the universal trusting issue: people don’t trust people anymore. We have built temples and religions and civilizations to make things work, to make sure our wishes will be granted, we tried to make all kinds of systems to make sure we will get what we are asking for. Just that we forgot one thing: the first trust wasn’t broken by a god, a culture, an idea or the Universe itself. The ones that invented mistrust were the people! A human being was the first one that broke her promise to another human being. For whatever reason that person had, it seeded the mistrust and lack of hope in all of us. It showed other human beings that even if you say something, that is not necessarily the truth, that even if you promise something and other count on you, you can still break that promise and mislead the others. Mistrust appeared among families, relatives, friends and even enemies. And it got to the point where it almost rules the world.

I met a lot of people that didn’t trust what they were told. Whether it was in my home town or on the other side of the world, skepticism feels like home everywhere. And the current greatest threat for mankind is… the human being. Nature never promised anything and then broke it’s promise. Neither did time, physical laws, the Universe and not even the animals. Nobody let us down more and more often than the human being itself. And each time one of us breaks his promise, he is just adding to the universal mistrust and waters it. The more we fail others, the more we lower their self-esteem, and the more we do that to more people, the more the entire species sinks in mistrust.

We were all there when the Big Bang happened, we all come from the same place. So do our wishes and possibilities to fulfill them. We know that place and we have been there, part of it since before time. So there should be no trust involved in the wishing process. We shouldn’t believe, or hope, or even wish. We should know! We should know that everything that we wish for will be granted to us, that we are allowed and entitled to receive everything that we need, that we are worthy of everything and everything is possible! But instead of this, we shame one another, we pull each other down and fill us up with unworthiness.

What would it be if starting with right now, we would take seriously every child’s wish, every crazy dream and promise only what we know we will deliver? What if we KNEW we could have it all, make everything work and…wish some more? What if the more we wished for something, the more we received, and what if we were sure, beyond any doubt, that we will receive everything is intended for us? What if we stopped believing other people when they say we don’t deserve it, we are not worthy of it or is not possible?

We are part of it all, of the entire Universe. We are not separated from it as we don’t exist outside of it. So, if we are part of something… how come that over the millennia, the human kind reached the point where we need to believe and have faith? We are already part of this, we should KNOW it, and act accordingly. And once we stop wasting our time with hoping and trusting effort and betrayals, maybe we get more time and energy to also look around us and make the world and our lives better.