I started writing this article by looking for the definition of what a “wish” is, and I have to say I am shocked!

First one, directly from Google, says that a making a wish is

“a feel or express a strong desire or hope for something that cannot or probably will not happen”

Or even worse, the Cambridge online dictionary calls the act of wishing as:

“expressing that you feel sorry or sad about a state or situation that existed at one moment e.g. I wish I was there, I wish things could have been better, etc.”

And only in the end, finally I found a better meaning to it, however, not the best in my opinion, and not even close to reality:

“to hope that something you want will be made real because of good luck or magical powers”

I don’t know about you, but all these definitions and perceptions on the “wishes and wishing act” sounded wrong to me since I have known myself. Hope and wish are two words that although should be the ones that make the world go around, have been cast upon with either an awful definition, either with an empty meaning. Hope is what keeps us alive every single day and the wishes that we have make the world happen. It can happen that our hopes and dreams lead us to a terrible path, and that is perfectly normal because the Universe doesn’t differentiate between good and bad, doesn’t have our perception about right and wrong, but that doesn’t mean we should use these words and do these acts ironically or with the certainty that they won’t happen.

It’s been a long time since us, as a human species, considered some actions too difficult to understand and control, so we made them seem worthless, sometimes even outlawing them entirely. Just remember that making a wish come true was seen as sorcery in the Middle Ages and praying or meditating to be healed is taken ironically even in our own days. Instead of trying to understand and use these tools, we considered them demonized and too difficult to use, especially by the regular people, so we either forbid them, or we turned them into irony/sarcasm/childish/foolish things so people would get embarrassed to turn to them. Luckily, there are still people that work with themselves and still manifest their wishes: they are the one envied and blamed at the same time for everything they managed to achieve, without realizing that everyone is actually capable of that.

I always believed in the power of wishing for something, in the power of thoughts and mind over matter. I always had a feeling that you can do anything as long as…you follow a few guidelines. Before we go with the actual steps of how to make a wish come true, I would like to bring something else into attention:

1. There are no good or bad wishes, all of them can come true. However, no matter what you wish for, it will always affect you, as being the source of that wish. I hope this clarifies that wishing bad things to someone is not just useless, but it causes damage on the one having the wish, rather than on the targeted person.
2. The wish is triggered and designated for the person that makes it, it is always following it’s source. This means that it is more than useless to wish something for someone else. Just think about it, what if the other one dreams of the exact opposite? Well, their wish will always come true for themselves, while you are left with a feeling that your wishes don’t. Wish for yourself, and the joy that your fulfilled desire will bring you will lighten the ones around you too. Also, don’t forget every person has his own destiny, children, spouses, parents, and we have absolutely no authority on someone else’s life.
3. Make it be a wish! Not a need, an obligation or something to achieve just to prove things to others, for fame or for show off. Those wishes will still work, especially if you are particularly persistent in them, the Universe will make things work. The catch is, they will also come with severe side effects, e.g. you want more money, for status and glory, it comes, but maybe with a small disease attached. Another example would be getting a job, or married, or having kids just because of the society pressure, peer pressure, culture, etc. These things might eventually come, but together with stress, health issues, worries, battles, anything else but happiness. A wish should bring happiness, without harming anyone around, and cause joy, peace and fulfillment to the person that is the source.
4. Never run away from something, always run towards! This is especially important because this means that wishes expressed with negations in them simply don’t work. E.g. I wish this situation stopped, I wish I escaped this situation, I wish I never get into such a situation. Rather use positive, clear directions, like: From now on I wish the situation would be like this, I wish to reach to, I wish I have peace and we understand each other, etc. Never wish for the negative to stop but wish for the positive to begin.

With this being said, let’s begin with the “recipe”.

1. Take a deep breath! Or two, or three, as many as you need until the only thing you are focused on is your breath.
2. Have in mind the clearest image that you could ever have about what you wish for. Put as many details in it, fill it up as much as you can. Keep in mind the Universe will fill in the blanks, and maybe you are not happy with its choices. Be precise and accurate, or accept that the result can and will most likely be different than expected. Wherever you leave an empty space, it will be filled with the right things according to your level of perception. Let’s take as an example, getting a new car. If you wish only to have a Lamborghini in your backyard, but you don’t consider yourself worthy enough, or you don’t see it in a realistically possible way, you might end up with someone driving that Lamborghini into your fence, due to a traffic accident. You still end up with a Lamborghini in your backyard, but I think we can agree that it is not exactly what anyone would have had in mind when making that wish.
3. Think and act as mush as possible in the direction of your wish. Imagine who you become, how you get transformed if your wish becomes true. Imagine it while feeling ready for all the wave of changes that wish will bring with itself, once it gets fulfilled. How would you feel, talk to people, walk in the street, act, react, think, be overall, once it becomes real. Be already that person, already act and think and feel as if you have it all. Also be ready for all kind of some “side effects”, which, although may seem adverse in the beginning, are more than necessary for the wish to come true. In this category we have: ending relationships with some of the people, ending or making a turn in a professional career, changing living places, change in general! Accept all the consequences of your wish, because you can’t receive something new as long as you keep yourself as an old version. All the wishes that we make are desires for change, so if you don’t accept change, there is almost no possibility for any of your wishes to come true.
4. Repeat all the above steps, while calibrating the cause-effect by measuring how your wishes have materialized, weighing what fears or negative perceptions keep you from moving forward. As soon as you observe an obstacle in the form of a fear of change, admit that that pattern of making life work didn’t make things work much until now, so the only logical thing to do would be to change the old pattern. If not with love, fear can be treated effectively, for short moments of time, with logic. Logically assess your steps and make changes to your perception without attaching emotions to this act.
5. Maybe the most important thing, in the end, is to let things go and enter the flow. By accepting to navigate life as is, not taking anything personally, and bringing enthusiasm under all circumstances, the only thing we need to do may be to accept that “Thy will shall be done!”.

 

Happy wishing!