Love (that never) hurts

Love…is hard, difficult, breaks you, tears you apart. Love brings momentary happiness, but with devastating consequences. Love makes you suffer, sacrifice, surrender and disregard your values. Love steals your mind, makes you illogical, nuts, crazy, dangerous.

Due to the above statements, love has to be stopped! By all means!

This is what we have seen in the past thousands of years, this is what we have been told, taught about, scared about! We tried to annihilate love with arranged marriages, logic over heart conditioning, punishment, imprisonment, anything to avoid the sweet/bitter touch of love. When that didn’t work either, we started shaming it, ridiculing it, turning it into something for soft pansies, and shallow people. We got so afraid of love!

We became afraid of love so much that we reached to a point where WE KNOW it is going to ruin our lives. We included it in our religions, but with a measure of severity, of cruel, but justified intolerance towards the weak souls that could no refrain from it. We even made our Gods vengeful, stating in the holy books that ALTHOUGH they love humans, they MUST punish and not tolerate mistakes. We cut out love and we proclaimed it the opposite of a righteous, logical, error free existence. Where there is love, there is no logic! Where there is love, there is no progress, no righteousness.

To be honest, we were never capable of handling such a powerful feeling. Or to interpret it, or to accept it, never mind about using it to our benefits! We found something way beyond our capacities at that moment, we became scared of it so… we almost made it illegal. No, wait, in some countries public affection gestures and/or trying to make a relationship based on love and not on an arrangement, are still illegal. We took this to a soul shaming level, where we started imagining all kinds of punishments in the after life, for daring to fall in love, given of course, by an all mighty, all loving, but severe and righteous God. We started seeing as normal the combination between love and punishment! And there was just one more little step to take us to love/hate and physical punishment relationships. They became a normal thing in our society, saying you love someone but punishing them for the rest of their lives (due to a reason seen more than logical to the punisher) became the standard. Sentences like „ I love you, but now I am punishing you exactly because I love you and it is for your own benefit” became the norm.

It is a messed up norm! Love has nothing to do with punishing someone else, or yourself. Love is kind, forgiving, understanding! Love is powerful and can be overwhelming! But that doesn’t make love bad, nor should we get scared of it. Love doesn’t leave too much space for the Ego! And I think this is the main reason to be afraid of. Love dissolves the ego just like heat melts butter. It doesn’t leave room for selfish things, doesn’t shout, doesn’t beat, doesn’t push. Love transforms! Love recreates who we are from scratch, and that can be scary!

We have treated love in a bad way for too long. Anything we treat with disrespect comes back one day, to bite us in the face. It’s just the way the Universe goes! So why not give more tolerance to love and to people being in love? Can we trust and put our faith in the fact that if we get to love, everything else will come? Because love is not scary, it is powerful. It is the power at the basis of our Universe, and it takes only one small step to accept that as soon as we let ourselves feel it, everything else will fall into its place.